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  • LibraryExplainer

    What trauma actually means

    Not a word for weak people. A word for what happens when something overwhelms what a person can take in.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryField note

    When it happened years ago and still feels close

    Time does not always put distance between you and what happened. Why, and what can help.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Flashbacks: what they are and what to do

    When the past floods the present. A short guide for the moment it happens and for afterwards.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryField note

    Numb is not the same as fine

    Feeling nothing can be a sign you are carrying a lot. How to tell the difference.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryExplainer

    Anger after trauma

    When you are short with everyone and do not know why. Where anger often comes from, and what to do with it.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryExplainer

    Shame is not the same as guilt

    Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am bad. Why the difference matters after trauma.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryExplainer

    Freezing was not a choice

    Why so many people could not move, shout or fight back, and why that was the body protecting you.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Sleep after trauma

    Nightmares, waking at three, never quite resting. Practical things that help.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryScript

    How to tell someone you trust

    If you want one person to know, how to start, and how much to say.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Trauma and the work week

    Getting through work when your head is somewhere else.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Drinking to get through it

    When alcohol or something else becomes the way to switch off. A plain look at what is happening.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryExplainer

    Hypervigilance: always on guard

    Scanning every room, sitting near the exit, never quite relaxing. What it is and how to ease it.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Trauma in childhood, felt as an adult

    What happened when you were young can shape how you live now. Some of the ways, and what helps.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryChecklist

    Grounding exercises you can do anywhere

    Five quiet techniques for when you feel overwhelmed in public.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryPractical guide

    When trauma affects your relationship

    How what happened to you can show up between you and a partner, and how to talk about it.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryPractical guide

    After an accident or a violent incident

    The first weeks after something sudden and frightening.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryExplainer

    Trauma and your body

    Headaches, tight shoulders, stomach trouble. How stress can live in the body.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryPractical guide

    When to see a clinician about trauma

    How to know when self help is not enough, and what to say when you call.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryExplainer

    Grief does not follow stages

    Why the idea of neat stages leaves so many people feeling they are doing it wrong.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryExplainer

    Grieving by doing

    If you are fixing, working and sorting instead of talking, that is a recognised way to grieve.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryChecklist

    The first week after a death

    What usually needs doing, and what can wait.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Grief without a body, without a goodbye

    When you could not be there, or there was no funeral, or the person was never found.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    When the death was by suicide

    A loss that brings its own questions. Some things that are true.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryScript

    Telling children about a death

    Simple, honest words for a hard conversation.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryExplainer

    Grief and anger

    Being furious at the person who died, at doctors, at God, at everyone. Why it happens.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    When the second year is harder

    Why grief can get harder after the first year, not easier.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Losing a parent as an adult

    When you become the older generation, and people expect you to cope.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Losing a child

    The loss that turns the natural order upside down.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    When a pregnancy ends

    Miscarriage, stillbirth and loss in pregnancy, including for partners.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Grief after a breakup

    When the person is still alive but the life you had together is gone.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryExplainer

    Grief and your body

    Tired, aching, sick, unable to eat. Grief is physical.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Holidays and anniversaries

    Getting through the dates you know are coming.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Grief at work

    Going back, what to say, and what you do not owe anyone.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryExplainer

    Grief that will not ease

    When a loss takes over a life for a very long time, and what can help.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryExplainer

    Continuing bonds with someone who died

    Staying connected to someone after death is healthy, not a sign of being stuck.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Grief and faith

    When loss shakes what you believe, or when faith is what holds you.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Grieving a pet

    When the loss of an animal hurts more than people expect.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Grief and guilt

    The things you wish you had said or done.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Grief when you are far from home

    Losing someone in another country, or grieving away from your family.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryExplainer

    When grief and depression overlap

    How to tell the difference, and why it matters.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryChecklist

    What a healthy relationship looks like

    A plain checklist for when you are not sure what normal is.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryExplainer

    When you shut down in arguments

    Going silent, walking away, feeling nothing. Why it happens and what helps.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Repair after an argument

    How to come back together after things got heated.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Sex after trauma

    When intimacy is complicated by what happened before.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryField note

    Loneliness inside a relationship

    When you are with someone and still feel alone.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Co parenting with someone you cannot stand

    Keeping it about the children when the relationship is over.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryScript

    Telling a partner about your past

    Whether, when and how to share what happened to you.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryField note

    Friendship for men

    Why many men have fewer close friends than they want, and how to change it.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Boundaries with family

    Saying no to the people you grew up with.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryField note

    Coming out to a partner

    When you realise something about your identity while in a relationship.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryPractical guide

    When your partner drinks too much

    Living with someone whose drinking is affecting you.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryExplainer

    Money and control in relationships

    When finances are used to keep someone trapped.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryExplainer

    Trust after betrayal

    Whether and how trust can be rebuilt after an affair or a serious breach.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Dating again after abuse

    How to move forward, and signs to watch for.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryField note

    Caring for a partner who is ill

    Love, duty and exhaustion when you become a carer.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryScript

    Apologising well

    What makes an apology land, and what makes it worse.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryScript

    Asking for what you need

    Simple words for something many people find hard.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryField note

    Relationships after prison or service

    Reconnecting with a partner and family after long time apart.

    1 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryExplainer

    Men experience domestic abuse too

    Why it happens, why it is hidden, and why it is not your fault.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryChecklist

    Signs of coercive control

    Abuse that is about a pattern, not single incidents.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Making a safety plan

    Thinking ahead about how to stay as safe as possible.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Why people stay

    Answering the question everyone asks, including the person inside.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Abuse in same sex relationships

    It happens, and it can have extra layers.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryChecklist

    What to do right after an incident

    If you have just been hurt or threatened.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Keeping a record of abuse

    Why it can help, and how to do it safely.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Technology and abuse

    Tracking, monitoring and online harassment, and how to protect yourself.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Abuse from a parent or adult child

    Family violence is not only between partners.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Children who see abuse at home

    How children are affected, and what helps them.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryChecklist

    Leaving: what to take

    A list of things to gather, if it is safe.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Protection orders explained

    A general guide to legal protection, which works differently in each country.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Reporting to the police

    What might happen, and your choices.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Emotional abuse is abuse

    Words and behaviour that wear you down are real harm.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Sexual abuse in relationships

    Consent still matters when you are together.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryField note

    Pets and domestic abuse

    When animals are used to control or hurt you.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Staying safe after leaving

    The risks that come after the relationship ends.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryField note

    Recovering after abuse

    Rebuilding yourself once you are safe.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Supporting a friend who is being abused

    How to help without making it more dangerous.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryField note

    Abuse and immigration

    When your visa or status is used against you.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Elder abuse

    When older people are harmed by family or carers.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Finding a refuge or shelter

    What safe accommodation is and how to get there.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryScript

    Talking to your children about leaving

    Words for children when the family has to move.

    1 minute readDomestic violence

  • LibraryExplainer

    Anxiety explained simply

    What is happening in your body and mind, and what helps.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryChecklist

    What to do in a panic attack

    Steps for the moment, and afterwards.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    If you are thinking about suicide

    Please read this. You do not have to act on these thoughts.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Burnout

    When you are running on empty and cannot recover.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Bipolar disorder, in plain words

    Moods that swing between highs and lows.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Starting therapy: what to expect

    First sessions, how it works, and how to know if it is right.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Medication for mental health

    Common questions answered plainly.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Self harm

    Understanding it, and finding other ways to cope.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Obsessive thoughts and compulsions

    When the mind gets stuck in loops.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Eating problems in men

    Disordered eating is not only a women's issue.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Mental health at work

    Talking to your employer, and protecting yourself.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryField note

    Mental health in young men

    Pressures, risks and what helps.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryField note

    Mental health in older men

    Retirement, loss and loneliness later in life.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Gambling

    When betting stops being fun.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryExplainer

    Drugs, alcohol and mental health

    How substances and mood affect each other.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryField note

    Social media and your mood

    How screens can affect how you feel.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryField note

    Recovery is not a straight line

    Good days, bad days, and why setbacks are normal.

    1 minute readMental health

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Family rejection

    When people who should love you turn away.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryExplainer

    Minority stress

    Why being LGBTQ+ in an unaccepting world affects mental health.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    Being LGBTQ+ and religious

    When faith and identity seem to clash.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    Bisexual people and erasure

    When others say your identity is a phase or does not exist.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryExplainer

    Gender dysphoria explained

    What it means and how people find relief.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryExplainer

    LGBTQ+ and homeless

    Why LGBTQ+ young people are more likely to lose their homes.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryChecklist

    Dating safely as an LGBTQ+ person

    Practical steps when meeting people online.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    Chemsex and support

    When sex and drugs become linked.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    LGBTQ+ older people

    Ageing, isolation and finding community.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryHeavy subject

    Being outed

    When someone shares your identity without permission.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Workplace discrimination

    When you face hostility at work for being LGBTQ+.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    LGBTQ+ people and grief

    When grief is not recognised.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    LGBTQ+ refugees and asylum seekers

    Fleeing persecution because of who you are.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Supporting an LGBTQ+ child

    For parents and carers.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryExplainer

    Internalised shame

    When the world's messages become your own voice.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    LGBTQ+ men and loneliness

    Community can be full of people and still feel lonely.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryExplainer

    Intersex people

    A brief introduction.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryField note

    Pride and protest

    Why community matters for healing.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Trans people and healthcare

    Getting care that respects you.

    1 minute readLGBTQ+

  • LibraryChecklist

    The first thirty days of starting over

    A gentle plan for when everything has changed.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Starting over after prison

    Practical and emotional steps after release.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Moving to a new city alone

    Finding your feet when you know nobody.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Learning to live alone

    After a breakup, bereavement or leaving home.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Starting over with money

    Getting back on your feet financially.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Finding work after a gap

    Explaining time away and getting back in.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    When everyone else has moved on

    Feeling left behind after a hard time.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    New routines that stick

    Small habits to build structure.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Starting over after addiction

    Recovery and building a new life.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Making friends as an adult

    It is harder than it was at school. Here is how.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Retirement as a fresh start

    Making the most of the next chapter.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Rebuilding after a breakdown

    When your mental health collapsed and you are putting things back.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Starting over in a new country

    Settling in when everything is different.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Getting your confidence back

    After something knocked you down.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Single parenting suddenly

    When you become the main parent overnight.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Clearing out after a loss

    Belongings, homes, and when to do it.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Saying goodbye to a home

    Leaving a place that held a life.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Starting over after a disaster

    Fire, flood, storm or conflict.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Finding purpose again

    When life feels meaningless after loss or change.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Letting go of who you were

    Grieving an old version of yourself.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    Small steps count

    Why progress does not need to be dramatic.

    1 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryExplainer

    Your rights as a tenant

    A general guide. Laws differ by country.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Facing eviction

    What to do if you have been told to leave.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Sofa surfing

    Staying with friends is homelessness too.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Housing after leaving abuse

    Finding a safe place to live.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Repairs and damp

    Getting your landlord to fix problems.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Applying for social housing

    A general guide.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Rough sleeping and health

    Looking after yourself while sleeping outside.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    When rent is more than you can pay

    Options before it becomes a crisis.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Housing and mental health

    How a home affects wellbeing.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Discrimination in housing

    When you are refused because of who you are.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Sharing a home safely

    Living with housemates or lodgers.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Keeping your home when someone dies

    What happens to a tenancy or mortgage after a death.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Hoarding

    When belongings take over a home.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryField note

    Homelessness and older people

    Losing a home later in life.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Veterans and housing

    Help for people leaving service.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Housing after prison

    Finding somewhere to live after release.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Being homeless and LGBTQ+

    Finding safe services.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Landlord harassment

    When a landlord makes your life difficult.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryExplainer

    Housing and disability

    Getting a home that meets your needs.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryChecklist

    Planning for housing in a crisis

    Thinking ahead about where you could go.

    1 minute readHousing

  • LibraryPractical guide

    Yes, men can be sexually assaulted

    The myths male survivors hear most, and what is actually true.

    1 minute readMen

  • LibraryPractical guide

    When the abuse comes from a partner and you are a man

    Coercive control, violence and threats do not care about gender. What it can look like, and what to do.

    1 minute readMen

  • LibraryField note

    I don't know if what happened counts

    You do not need a name for it before you are allowed to take it seriously.

    1 minute readTrauma

  • LibraryField note

    Grieving someone who is still alive

    Estrangement, breakups, a parent who changed. Losses nobody holds a funeral for.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    What to do about the house

    The physical place, and the decisions people will push you to make early that do not have to be made early.

    2 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    The paperwork nobody warns you about

    Accounts, policies, subscriptions, the DMV. What order to do it in and what can wait.

    2 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Why Monday is the worst day

    And the specific things that help before ten o'clock.

    1 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    The thing you keep not doing

    Why that one task has been sitting there six weeks, and how to make it smaller than it is.

    2 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    Sleeping, or not

    What is common, what is worth mentioning to a doctor, and what actually helps at three in the morning.

    2 minute readGrief

  • LibraryField note

    What to say when someone asks how you are doing

    Four answers for four situations, including the one where you do not want to talk.

    2 minute readRelationships

  • LibraryField note

    Going back to work

    The first week, what to tell people, and what you are not obliged to say.

    2 minute readStarting over

  • LibraryField note

    The second year

    Nobody warns you that it can be harder, and why that is not going backwards.

    2 minute readStarting over

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