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Grief at work

Going back, what to say, and what you do not owe anyone.

Going back to work after a loss can feel strange. Some people find it a relief. Others find it unbearable.

Before you go back

Ask your manager to tell colleagues, so you do not have to repeat it
Say how you would like it handled: talk about it, or not
Ask about leave, flexible hours or a phased return if they exist where you work

At work

Have a place you can go if it hits you
Lower your expectations of yourself for a while
Write things down. Grief affects memory
Take breaks

What you do not owe

You do not owe anyone the details. You can say, "Thank you, I would rather not talk about it at work." You do not have to look fine.

The free course Carrying it at work is being written for this.

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