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Why you do it this way
Why you have been fixing things, working, and sorting rather than talking. Why that is a recognized pattern, not a failure, and what it does well and badly.
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Grief
Grief after a death, a breakup, an estrangement, a life you expected. Including the losses nobody holds a funeral for.
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Grief does not follow stages
Why the idea of neat stages leaves so many people feeling they are doing it wrong.
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Grieving by doing
If you are fixing, working and sorting instead of talking, that is a recognised way to grieve.
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The first ninety days
What actually has to be handled, in what order, and what can wait. Nothing in it about feelings, which is exactly why it works.
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Carrying it at work
Going back. What to tell people and what you are not obliged to say. Working on four hours of sleep, in a job that requires you to be fine.
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Grief without a body, without a goodbye
When you could not be there, or there was no funeral, or the person was never found.
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When the death was by suicide
A loss that brings its own questions. Some things that are true.
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The second year
Nobody warns you it can be harder. Why the help ends at the funeral and the hard part starts afterwards. Keeping a bond without getting stuck.
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Grief without a funeral
Breakups, estrangement, a life that did not happen, a person who is alive but gone. The losses nobody marks, and how to carry them.
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Grief and anger
Being furious at the person who died, at doctors, at God, at everyone. Why it happens.
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When the second year is harder
Why grief can get harder after the first year, not easier.
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Losing a parent as an adult
When you become the older generation, and people expect you to cope.
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When a pregnancy ends
Miscarriage, stillbirth and loss in pregnancy, including for partners.
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Grief after a breakup
When the person is still alive but the life you had together is gone.
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Grieving someone you had a hard relationship with
When the person who died also hurt you.
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Grief that will not ease
When a loss takes over a life for a very long time, and what can help.
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Continuing bonds with someone who died
Staying connected to someone after death is healthy, not a sign of being stuck.
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Grief and faith
When loss shakes what you believe, or when faith is what holds you.
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Grief in a family that does not talk about feelings
When everyone is hurting and nobody says so.
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Grief when you are far from home
Losing someone in another country, or grieving away from your family.
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When a relationship ends and you did not see it coming
Shock, questions, and getting through the first weeks.
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Keeping your home when someone dies
What happens to a tenancy or mortgage after a death.
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Grieving someone who is still alive
Estrangement, breakups, a parent who changed. Losses nobody holds a funeral for.
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What to do about the house
The physical place, and the decisions people will push you to make early that do not have to be made early.
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The paperwork nobody warns you about
Accounts, policies, subscriptions, the DMV. What order to do it in and what can wait.
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Telling people, and how many times you have to
The repetition problem, and three scripts for different distances of friend.
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The thing you keep not doing
Why that one task has been sitting there six weeks, and how to make it smaller than it is.
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Eating when you do not care about eating
Practical, unsentimental, and no nutrition advice.
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Sleeping, or not
What is common, what is worth mentioning to a doctor, and what actually helps at three in the morning.
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Going back to work
The first week, what to tell people, and what you are not obliged to say.
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The second year
Nobody warns you that it can be harder, and why that is not going backwards.
