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Men don't have to disappear.
Withdrawal, overwork, anger and numbness are how pain often shows up in men. Disappearing is not the same as coping.
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Mental health
Depression often looks like anger, numbness or overwork in men. How to notice it, and how to ask for help.
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CourseBeing written
Anger, and what is under it
Why it comes out as rage and shortness rather than sadness. How to tell ordinary irritability from something that needs a doctor, and what to say when you call.
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LibraryExplainer
Why your body remembers what your mind tries to forget
A smell, a sound, a tone of voice. Why your body reacts before you have time to think.
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PodcastComing soon
The Lighthouse Is On
A Griefyard Works podcast. Long conversations about the things men were taught not to say. Coming soon.
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LibraryPractical guide
Flashbacks: what they are and what to do
When the past floods the present. A short guide for the moment it happens and for afterwards.
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CourseBeing written
Carrying it at work
Going back. What to tell people and what you are not obliged to say. Working on four hours of sleep, in a job that requires you to be fine.
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LibraryField note
Numb is not the same as fine
Feeling nothing can be a sign you are carrying a lot. How to tell the difference.
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LibraryExplainer
Anger after trauma
When you are short with everyone and do not know why. Where anger often comes from, and what to do with it.
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LibraryPractical guide
Sleep after trauma
Nightmares, waking at three, never quite resting. Practical things that help.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Drinking to get through it
When alcohol or something else becomes the way to switch off. A plain look at what is happening.
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LibraryExplainer
Hypervigilance: always on guard
Scanning every room, sitting near the exit, never quite relaxing. What it is and how to ease it.
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LibraryChecklist
Grounding exercises you can do anywhere
Five quiet techniques for when you feel overwhelmed in public.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Trauma after military, police or emergency work
When the job exposes you to things most people never see.
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LibraryExplainer
Trauma and your body
Headaches, tight shoulders, stomach trouble. How stress can live in the body.
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LibraryChecklist
Small routines that make a hard day possible
When everything feels big, start with things that are small.
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LibraryPractical guide
When to see a clinician about trauma
How to know when self help is not enough, and what to say when you call.
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LibraryHeavy subject
When the death was by suicide
A loss that brings its own questions. Some things that are true.
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LibraryExplainer
Grief that will not ease
When a loss takes over a life for a very long time, and what can help.
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LibraryPractical guide
When your partner drinks too much
Living with someone whose drinking is affecting you.
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LibraryField note
Caring for a partner who is ill
Love, duty and exhaustion when you become a carer.
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LibraryChecklist
When your relationship affects your mental health
Signs it is taking more than it gives.
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LibraryExplainer
Depression in men often looks like something else
Anger, overwork, drinking and numbness can all be signs.
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LibraryScript
How to talk to a doctor about your mental health
What to say when you have ten minutes and do not know where to start.
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LibraryHeavy subject
If you are thinking about suicide
Please read this. You do not have to act on these thoughts.
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LibraryPractical guide
Starting therapy: what to expect
First sessions, how it works, and how to know if it is right.
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LibraryChecklist
Looking after your mental health on a budget
Things that help and cost little or nothing.
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LibraryExplainer
What happens in a mental health crisis service
If you go to emergency services for your mental health.
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LibraryPractical guide
Helping a friend with their mental health
What to say and how to stay connected.
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LibraryField note
Rebuilding when your identity was your job
When work ends and you do not know who you are.
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LibraryField note
Rebuilding after a breakdown
When your mental health collapsed and you are putting things back.
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LibraryPractical guide
How to tell you need a clinician, and what to say when you call
What this practice does not do, how to know you have crossed that line, and the first sentence of the phone call.
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LibraryField note
The thing you keep not doing
Why that one task has been sitting there six weeks, and how to make it smaller than it is.
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LibraryField note
Eating when you do not care about eating
Practical, unsentimental, and no nutrition advice.
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LibraryField note
Sleeping, or not
What is common, what is worth mentioning to a doctor, and what actually helps at three in the morning.
