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Starting therapy: what to expect

First sessions, how it works, and how to know if it is right.

Starting therapy can feel daunting. Knowing what to expect helps.

First sessions

  • The therapist will ask about what brought you
  • They may ask about your history
  • You can say what you want to talk about and what you do not

Types of therapy

There are many types: some focus on thoughts and behaviour, some on the past, some on trauma, some on relationships. You can ask what approach a therapist uses.

Is it the right fit

It is normal to feel awkward at first. But if after a few sessions you do not feel safe or understood, it is OK to try someone else.

Men in therapy

Many men worry therapy is just talking about feelings. It can also be practical, structured and focused on goals. Ask for what suits you.

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