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ExplainerLGBTQ+Mental healthTrauma1 minute read

Internalised shame

When the world's messages become your own voice.

Many LGBTQ+ people absorb negative messages, which can show up as self criticism or shame.

Signs

  • Feeling uncomfortable with affection in public
  • Discomfort with other LGBTQ+ people
  • Believing you are less worthy

Moving through it

  • Notice the voice and where it came from
  • Spend time with affirming people
  • Therapy with an affirming therapist

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