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Depression in men often looks like something else

Anger, overwork, drinking and numbness can all be signs.

Depression is often described as sadness and crying. In many men, it shows up differently, which means it is missed.

Signs that are often overlooked

  • Irritability and short temper
  • Working all the time, or not being able to work at all
  • Drinking more or using drugs
  • Taking risks
  • Feeling numb or empty rather than sad
  • Physical aches, headaches, stomach trouble
  • Pulling away from people

Why it matters

When depression is not recognised, people do not get help. Some end up in crisis.

What to do

If several of these sound familiar, talk to a doctor. You can say, "I have not been myself, and I think it might be depression."

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