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The first ninety days

What actually has to be handled, in what order, and what can wait. Nothing in it about feelings, which is exactly why it works.

For a man who has just been handed a pile of things to sort out.

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Begin module one 3 modules, 33 minutes in all
  1. Two kinds of work Task: Download the first ninety days sheet and pick the track that fits. Read only the first list. 10 min
  2. The order things bite Task: Print three copies of the ask sheet. Use one on the next call you make to an office. 14 min
  3. Time off from both Task: Pick one evening this week with no admin in it at all. Write it on the Monday sheet as the thing you are not doing, on purpose. 9 min

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    What usually needs doing, and what can wait.

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    The second year

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