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Field noteLGBTQ+Grief1 minute read

LGBTQ+ people and grief

When grief is not recognised.

LGBTQ+ people can face grief that others do not recognise.

Examples

A partner's family excluding you from a funeral
Losing a chosen family member
Grieving family who rejected you
Losing community spaces

Disenfranchised grief

When grief is not acknowledged, it can feel lonelier and harder to process.

What helps

Being with people who understood the loss
Creating your own rituals
Grief support that is LGBTQ+ affirming

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