Grief when you are far from home

Losing someone in another country, or grieving away from your family.

Many people live far from where they grew up. When someone dies back home, distance adds another layer.

What makes it harder

You may not be able to travel for the funeral
Time zones and costs complicate everything
People around you may not have known the person
Your grief may not fit the customs where you now live

Ways to connect

Join the funeral by video if possible
Hold your own small gathering where you are
Call family regularly, even briefly
Cook a dish they made, or play music from home

Feeling caught between

Some people feel they belong neither here nor there in grief. That is a real loss too. Find people where you live who share your background, or others who have lived abroad through a loss.

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