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Practical guideStarting overLonelinessMen1 minute read

Making friends as an adult

It is harder than it was at school. Here is how.

Making friends as an adult is harder than at school, where you saw the same people every day.

What makes friendship grow

  • Seeing the same people repeatedly
  • Shared activities
  • Small moments of honesty

Places to meet people

  • Sports, clubs and classes
  • Volunteering
  • Faith or community groups
  • Men's sheds, walking groups

Take the step

Suggest something specific: "Fancy a coffee next week?" Then follow up.

Be patient

It can take months to feel close to someone new.

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