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Friendship for men
Why many men have fewer close friends than they want, and how to change it.
Many men say they have plenty of mates, but nobody they could call at three in the morning.
Why it happens
- Friendships built on activities fade when the activity stops
- Work, children and moving away take over
- Many men were taught not to show need
- Making new friends as an adult feels awkward
What builds closeness
- Regular contact, not just big occasions
- Doing things side by side: walks, sport, building, fishing
- One honest sentence: "Things have been hard lately"
- Reaching out first, even when it feels uncomfortable
A small challenge
Message one person this week you have not spoken to in a while. Not to ask for anything. Just to say you were thinking of them.
Men's sheds, sports clubs, volunteering and peer groups can all be places to start.
