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Heavy subjectLGBTQ+Sexual violenceMenTrauma1 minute read

Gay and bisexual men and sexual violence

Support that understands both.

Gay and bisexual men experience sexual violence, from strangers, partners, dates and people they know.

Extra barriers

  • Fear that services will be homophobic
  • Worry about being outed
  • Myths that men cannot be assaulted by other men
  • Shame within the community

It was not your fault

Whatever you were wearing, whatever you had agreed to before, whatever you had drunk, consent can be withdrawn and assault is never the victim's fault.

Support

Some services specialise in supporting men, including gay and bisexual men. See resources for your country.

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