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Finding a refuge or shelter

What safe accommodation is and how to get there.

Refuges or shelters provide safe, often confidential, housing for people escaping abuse.

How to find one

  • Through a domestic abuse helpline
  • Through police or social services
  • In some countries, directly

What to expect

  • A safe room or flat, sometimes shared spaces
  • Support workers
  • Help with legal matters, benefits and housing
  • Rules to keep everyone safe

Men and LGBTQ+ people

Some areas have refuges or safe housing for men and for LGBTQ+ people, though there may be fewer. Ask helplines about what is available.

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