Talking to your children about leaving

When you leave an abusive home, children need simple, honest explanations that fit their age.

Example words

• "We are going to stay somewhere new for a while, so we can all feel safe."
• "This is not your fault."
• "It is OK to love both of us."
• "You can ask me anything."

What to avoid

• Sharing adult details
• Asking children to keep big secrets
• Criticising the other parent in front of them

Support for them

Many domestic abuse services have children's workers. Schools can help if they know.