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Field noteDomestic violenceMen1 minute read
When you are accused of being the abuser
False accusations as a tactic, and what to do.
Some abusers accuse their victims of abuse. This can be a way to frighten, control or gain advantage in court or with family.
How it happens
- Threatening to call the police and say you hurt them
- Telling friends and family you are violent
- Making allegations during custody disputes
What can help
- Keep records of incidents, messages and threats
- Stay calm in confrontations if you can, and leave if things escalate
- Get legal advice early
- Talk to a domestic abuse service that supports men
A hard truth
Some people who think they are victims are also using harmful behaviour. A good service can help you look honestly at the whole situation.
