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What a healthy relationship looks like
A plain checklist for when you are not sure what normal is.
If you grew up around conflict, or have been in a hard relationship, it can be difficult to know what healthy looks like. Here are some signs.
In a healthy relationship
- You can say no without being punished for it
- You can see friends and family freely
- Disagreements happen, but they do not frighten you
- Money is discussed, not controlled by one person
- You can have your own phone, passwords and time
- Apologies are followed by changed behaviour
- You feel more like yourself, not less
Not perfect, still healthy
Healthy relationships still have arguments, bad days and hard seasons. The difference is that both people feel safe and respected through it.
If several of these are missing
That does not automatically mean abuse. But it is worth paying attention. The piece Is it abuse, or just a bad relationship may help, and so can a confidential helpline in your country.
