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Heavy subjectLGBTQ+Trauma1 minute read

Being outed

When someone shares your identity without permission.

Being outed without consent can be frightening and devastating.

Possible effects

  • Fear for your safety
  • Losing relationships or work
  • Feeling exposed

What to do

  • Focus on safety first
  • Reach out to trusted people
  • Contact an LGBTQ+ helpline

If it was malicious

In some places, outing someone may be harassment. Get advice.

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