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What you did and did not do
Guilt, the replayed decision, the thing you should have noticed. Why this is a distinct injury with its own literature, and why the usual reassurance does not touch it.
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LibraryExplainer
What trauma actually means
Not a word for weak people. A word for what happens when something overwhelms what a person can take in.
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PodcastComing soon
The Lighthouse Is On
A Griefyard Works podcast. Long conversations about the things men were taught not to say. Coming soon.
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LibraryExplainer
Why your body remembers what your mind tries to forget
A smell, a sound, a tone of voice. Why your body reacts before you have time to think.
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CourseBeing written
I don't know where to start
For the moment when everything feels urgent and nothing feels clear. Sort what is happening into what needs doing now, this month, and later.
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LibraryField note
When it happened years ago and still feels close
Time does not always put distance between you and what happened. Why, and what can help.
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LibraryPractical guide
You do not have to tell the whole story to get help
Getting support does not require reliving what happened. What you can say instead.
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LibraryPractical guide
Flashbacks: what they are and what to do
When the past floods the present. A short guide for the moment it happens and for afterwards.
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LibraryField note
Numb is not the same as fine
Feeling nothing can be a sign you are carrying a lot. How to tell the difference.
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LibraryExplainer
Anger after trauma
When you are short with everyone and do not know why. Where anger often comes from, and what to do with it.
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LibraryExplainer
Shame is not the same as guilt
Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am bad. Why the difference matters after trauma.
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LibraryExplainer
Freezing was not a choice
Why so many people could not move, shout or fight back, and why that was the body protecting you.
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LibraryPractical guide
Sleep after trauma
Nightmares, waking at three, never quite resting. Practical things that help.
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LibraryScript
How to tell someone you trust
If you want one person to know, how to start, and how much to say.
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LibraryScript
When someone tells you what happened to them
How to respond so they are glad they told you.
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LibraryPractical guide
Trauma and the work week
Getting through work when your head is somewhere else.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Drinking to get through it
When alcohol or something else becomes the way to switch off. A plain look at what is happening.
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LibraryPractical guide
What a trauma informed service should feel like
How to tell whether a service will treat you well.
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LibraryExplainer
Hypervigilance: always on guard
Scanning every room, sitting near the exit, never quite relaxing. What it is and how to ease it.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Trauma in childhood, felt as an adult
What happened when you were young can shape how you live now. Some of the ways, and what helps.
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LibraryPractical guide
Your rights when you speak to the police or a doctor
What you can ask for, and what you can refuse.
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LibraryChecklist
Grounding exercises you can do anywhere
Five quiet techniques for when you feel overwhelmed in public.
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LibraryPractical guide
When trauma affects your relationship
How what happened to you can show up between you and a partner, and how to talk about it.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Trauma after military, police or emergency work
When the job exposes you to things most people never see.
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LibraryPractical guide
After an accident or a violent incident
The first weeks after something sudden and frightening.
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LibraryExplainer
Trauma and your body
Headaches, tight shoulders, stomach trouble. How stress can live in the body.
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LibraryChecklist
Small routines that make a hard day possible
When everything feels big, start with things that are small.
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LibraryPractical guide
When to see a clinician about trauma
How to know when self help is not enough, and what to say when you call.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Grief without a body, without a goodbye
When you could not be there, or there was no funeral, or the person was never found.
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LibraryHeavy subject
When the death was by suicide
A loss that brings its own questions. Some things that are true.
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LibraryHeavy subject
Grieving someone you had a hard relationship with
When the person who died also hurt you.
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LibraryExplainer
When you shut down in arguments
Going silent, walking away, feeling nothing. Why it happens and what helps.
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LibraryPractical guide
When your partner has been through trauma
How to support someone without losing yourself.
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LibraryScript
Telling a partner about your past
Whether, when and how to share what happened to you.
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LibraryHeavy subject
If you are thinking about suicide
Please read this. You do not have to act on these thoughts.
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Growing up LGBTQ+ and the effects later
How childhood experiences shape adult life.
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I don't know if what happened counts
You do not need a name for it before you are allowed to take it seriously.
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